So, when I think about writing a bio about myself I can rarely think of anything exciting. What I mean is, I kind of consider myself the everyday women. I am the mother of an 8 month old daughter (for the purpose of this blog we'll call her "Miss H"). I am... a wife (to my hubby Shawn, xoxo), a daughter (to Cathy aka. Momma Lemon), a sister and a twin (to C), and a "mom on the clock" (our term for a working mom). And like many of you, I'm a friend, a volunteer, a board member, a cook, a maid, and the list goes on and on! But really that’s not what you want to know, right? You want to know who AM I?
Why should you listen to my ranting. So, I figure I would take this time to tell you a little about who I really am (like the things I like and dislike) and who I really want to be. So here it goes… I love education, learning about new people and new places, different societies, different religions and philosophies, but I did not like going to school. I love all animals but I do eat meat. I love to travel but believe there is no better place than home. I love music, anything from hip hop to country. I love to read but hate to sit for a long period of time. I love exercise but get bored with it very easily. I am willing to try anything once. I love to write but could care less about grammar and spelling. I am a great friend and an honest straight shooter. I love sports and competition (especially baseball/softball). I am empathetic yet sometimes non-sympathetic. I believe in the power of thought and embrace the power of persuasion. I have strong values and beliefs, but more than willing to change my perception if presented with a good argument and statistics (the sociologist in me). I believe that everyone has the authority over their own lives and their own destination. I am who I am because I decide that is who I want to be. I want to be a great role model for my daughter. I want to be my husband’s best friend and strongest supporter. I never want to be stuck in my ways so much that I'm not be open to new ways of thinking or new ways of doing. I want to be a contributor to my society. As one of my favorite quote says I want to “be the change” I “wish to see in the world.”
With all that said you can probably tell I am a little bit of everything. I don’t believe anyone has to fit into a tiny box. I believe I can be one thing today and something different tomorrow. In fact, another one of my favorite quotes is below.
"They say, 'Be Yourself', like you know exactly what that is... like you're a toaster or something... like there's only that one way to pop out you. Well maybe being me isn't just one thing. Maybe just searching for me is being me and not being them... being themselves... being toasters. Maybe being me is more like a breakfast cereal variety pack. Maybe that's what I'll be... today. But tomorrow, who knows?...maybe the blue plate special"- unknown
So my goal in all of this is to help you all realize you can be whatever you want to be! Keep your values and principals the same, but really ya'll...life is short!!
For purposes of this blog let me tell you a little about my journey as a mom....
Shawn and I had been married for 5 years when I found out I was pregnant with our daughter. To say this was a surprise seems odd because we were married and weren't using any real methods of BC. However we were stunned to find out I was preggo! Every year since we were married we always felt "we weren't ready". Whether it was financially, mentally, or me physically there was always a reason why we would "start trying next year". Then came the sickness (not sure why they call it morning sickness when mine tended to be at night!). So I decided to take THE TEST and with a little *splish splash*
our life was changed forever. And what a change it has been! Neither one of us can look back and remember why our lives were so exciting before HER! The truth is, I don't think I was ready even up until the day we had her! But the second she came into this world was the second it just fell into place. Not without challenges of course. The first 6 weeks were rough and tough... throwing us for a loop every time we thought we had things figured out, Miss H would switch it up! We learned to adapt and we are continuing to adapt at every bend in the road! My role as a mother for this first 8 months of my daughter's life has been a little reversed compared to most of my friends. As the primary “bread winner” (although I hate that term) I worked full time and Shawn stayed with Miss H since his appraisal job allowed him to work from home. It was incredibly hard leaving every day. Although most people think that working in Real Estate means I have a “flexible schedule” I work most evenings and weekends so I miss out on making dinner and bed time quite often. So Shawn has taken over the typical “mother” roles and it truly has worked out great. With a slowdown in the market, Shawn has been able to spend some time thinking about a career change allowing him to get into a position that gives him more satisfaction. With the few number of jobs and the LARGE number of applicants this proved to be challenging, yet he continued his education, stayed the course, and recently got certified as an EMT. Just this week he was hired on at a local hospital for medical transport!! YAY!!!
So yet again our roles will shift and we’ll adapt! He is an INCREDIBLE dad and he and our daughter have a bond unlike anything I've ever seen. I'm hoping many of you out there have the same dynamic as we do and can appreciate my dialog as it will be a little different from the norm. Hope you will follow our journey and take part in the conversation!
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